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Bringing home my preemie newborn twins came with a LOT of anxiety about what was to come in the first month with twins.
I was actually terrified.
I brought my twins home with a lot of expectations.
But I still had no idea what the first month with twins was about to bring!
During my pregnancy, I read a lot of Pinterest articles from other twin moms, as well as What to Do When You’re Having Two. I read few other books, however, What to Do was my favorite (I highly recommend any mother or father that is expecting multiples to read the book).
I developed a lot of expectations of what the first month with twins would look like from the bulk of reading that I did. Some of those expectations were that I would never sleep, eat or accomplish anything ever again.
I assumed my house would become an unmanageable disaster zone and prepared myself for the worst.
Now here I am, a month into twins, and life isn’t as crazy as I was told it would be. At least not yet anyways. Maybe it doesn’t seem too crazy because I have always been a go-go-go person? Don’t get me wrong, sleeping for maybe an hour at a time is rough. But I am not as exponentially exhausted as I assumed I would be.
During this past first month with twins, I have found many things that I didn’t expect.
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- Breastfeeding them is HARD. This is one of those ‘easier said than done’ sorta things. I have read a lot of twin mom stories about nursing, but I don’t recall one explaining how frustrating and hard it is. I expected to be able to tandem feed from the get-go. Now I have learned that is not the case. Nursing them one at a time is nearly impossible. Both at the same time is just not happening anytime soon. I try to nurse them separately when I can, but when they both wake up screaming, bottles are the only way to go.
- They do sleep a lot. I don’t know why I grew the assumption that they would just be awake all of the time, but I am very happy to learn that is not the case. If you work hard at keeping them on a schedule, you will end up with a surprising amount of downtime during the day. For example, my babies have stuck pretty close to the 12-3-6-9-repeat schedule. They eat about every three hours, generally go right back down, I pump, and then I have some time for myself. Their schedule has given me enough ‘me time’ to get bored and decide to start this blog!
- When they do wake up, they don’t wake each other up. I was overly worried about this one. I figured my life would immediately become ‘you cry now I will cry too’. This might change as their hearing and sense of surroundings develops, however during this first month they haven’t woken each other once. I am so relieved to have debunked my assumption!
- Speaking of cries, their cries are very different. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to distinguish who was crying. Before babies, they all sounded the same to me. Now that I have heard them both cry over and over, they do sound very different.
- It’s easier to leave the house than I expected. Leaving the house with them in tow gave me near panic attacks before I actually started going at it. My favorite thing is strapping them into their carseats that click into their stroller and walk around my neighborhood. Their carseats stay inside stacked by the front door so everything is actually pretty simple. They usually are asleep the entire walk too!
- Changing poopy diapers is not that bad. Before the twins came, my husband was adamant that he wouldn’t do it, he’d puke, and it was just too gross for him. Now a month later he is the one that suggested I put this point into my post. Changing diapers becomes second nature so fast (hello, you’re changing about 16+ diapers a day) that a few minutes later you’ll probably forget what was even in them. Getting peed on isn’t that gross either.
- And like I said in the beginning, you will have time. I take regular showers (right now), tidy up the house every day, and still have time to do whatever else I want to do. Maybe not as much as you normally would have before newborn twins, but a lot more time than at least I originally expected. You’ll just have to work around your twins change-eat-sleep schedule.
Anything surprise you about the first month with twins or a singleton? Let me know in the comments!