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Well, do they? It seems to be the running question inside of any twin mom group I join.
Do twins ever get easier? And when?
I hear around 2.5-3 is when the big shift happens. They can communicate a bit better, comprehend more, and might stop trying to kill themselves daily.
But that seems so. far. away.
I remember being a week in. Then a month in. And constantly replaying the same question over and over.
Do twins ever get easier?
Now that mine are 18 months old, I do have some light for you about this short time frame.
It does get easier. Kind of.
Things do get easier, but not in the way you might be hoping for.
At least not yet, and not how I hoped it would.
From the blur that was the first year, big things stick out in my mind.
Our NICU experience. Me crying to God asking when the twins would get easier.
Then feeding them by myself when my husband went back to work the day after we got home from the NICU.
Again when the twins decided they didn’t need to sleep at the same times and then again when I decided F*** it, I need sleep to survive and sleep training began.
It came and went like waves because things do get easier with twins, but only sort of.
Little by little, you realize that feeding them at the same time isn’t as difficult anymore.
And then getting out the door by yourself doesn’t make you cringe.
Or you finally slept through the night for the first time since your first trimester.
You’ll start thinking to yourself, okay. So this is when things get easier.
Those things might get easier.
Feeding, sleep, and getting out with the infant carriers.
But then you introduce baby led weaning and the thoughts are back.
When do things get easier with twins?
Well, the truth is, your struggles today get easier just in time for tomorrows struggles to catch you off guard.
Things will get easier and you’ll start to find your flow. Then they outgrow the infant seats and suddenly you’ve got a baby in each arm to walk to and from the car.
Or they aren’t entertained by the same toys any longer and you have to resort to Pinterest for a few “toddler activities”.
When I was stuck in one of my recent ruts of wondering when things would get easier with twins, I realized;
It does when they start to sleep longer, but that also means less breaks in the day and more chaos.
Or when they stay awake for longer intervals, they can get real cranky REAL fast. And those melt downs always happen at the worst time and place.
Things do get easier with twins. But something harder ends up taking it’s place.
So, all you can really do is hang in there.
Appreciate the days where the world flows. You have the nap schedule down, feedings down and feel like a boss.
Because out of no where, they’re going to catch you off guard again with the next molar or learned skill.
I have a feeling it will be like this for the rest of our lives.
Things will get easier with twins, just for something to get harder.
What do you think?