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I never thought I’d be able to handle life with twins.
Never. I remember losing so much sleep during my pregnancy worrying about how I would be able to do it. How the hell to handle life with twins.
More so- how to do anything. How to break the stress cycle and get something done for ME with two tiny versions of me circling my ankles.
One thing I was right about was that life with twins is crazy.
You’re never alone, but then again you feel alone 99% of the time. It is a whirlwind of emotions and the majority of your time is spent asking yourself “how am I supposed to do this?”
How am I supposed to handle twins? Well frankly, there isn’t a right answer. I can’t promise you what works for me will work for you, but I can promise you that they are worth a shot.
The first of which being lower your expectations.
One of the only ways I have been able to get through 18 months as a twin mom is lowering my expectations to where they’re basically non-existent.
Some days, you are going to be super mom. Everything will line up, minimal tears will be shed, and you’ll eat a decent meal.
Other days, washing your face will be just about all you accomplish. And that is okay.
Leave those expectations in the ultrasound room where the tech surprised you with twins!
Then you’re going to want to keep ahead of the game.
Twins are wild. You might already know that. But to stay afloat, you gotta put some forethought in.
Keep your diaper bag packed, get dressed and wash your face right when you wake up, and keep grab and go snacks in the house. Those are some simple ways to de-stress twin life and better handle life with twins.
Next, create a safe zone in your house.
Once your twins are mobile, it’s easy to think life is over. Life does get a lot harder with mobile twins, BUT you can make life a little easier by creating a safe space.
For me, it’s the living room. A nice large space with zero possible hazards. That way I can easily trap them in there and take a break if I am about to explode or barricade the entrances to the room if one or both of them decide sleep is for the weak, and I can still lay on the couch and doze in and out while they stack toys on top of me.
But honestly, the best way to handle life with twins is to fake it till you make it.
Absolutely no twin mom knows what they are doing, I promise you. We’re all just doing our best to get by.
And most of the time, that just means doing what you would usually do, just with two little sidekicks destroying everything around you in the process.
One of the twin’s favorite things is pulling everything out of the bathroom cabinets and making a mess of the bathroom, so sometimes I just let them go at it (hence the low expectations) and do something for me in the meantime.
Like my make-up, hair, a quick shower or laying face down in my pillows for a few minutes.
But in the meantime, take a few (dozen) deep breaths because life with twins is rough, but you got this.
There is no definitive answer on how to handle life with twins, but I hope these few tips gave you a few ideas on where to start.
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See you over there, mama!