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Let’s say it one more time.
Public tantrums do not make you a bad mom.
Tantrums PERIOD do not make you a bad mom.
Tell me, what runs through your mind when you hear/see a meltdown in public?
What do you think?
You’re probably a lot like me. You wish you could help. But majority of the time your hands are too full and you just can’t. Or don’t want to step on any toes.
“She probably knows what she’s doing. I’ll probably just make things worse. I think to myself as I walk away.”
But there’s always that 1/10. The person that gives a look. Smirks. Or god forbid makes a comment.
It happens to everyone. I remember my first public mom shaming. Out at dinner, having my first drink in who knows how long, enjoying my time because I never got out with my twin infants. Then babies started to fuss.
Cue all eyes on me.
It’s like people assume that once you have a baby, you shouldn’t go out in public anymore. It for sure feels like it sometimes.
What with all the stares you get the second your baby makes something more than a smile.
I know those moments can easily make you feel sour. Like a failure. But I want to empower you.
In those moments, as hard as it is, I want you to hold your head high because you are doing something that would melt them to pieces.
If they have the nerve to stand and openly judge the tantrums your twins are throwing at that moment they obviously don’t have kids, or at least not twins.
They are not worth losing your cool over.
They are not your people.
YOU hold your head high. & YOU keep rocking that mom life.
This needs to be said. This needs to be talked about and discussed. I know I’m tired of feeling like crap because of my twins meltdowns in public. But why do I really feel so bad? What is so wrong about teaching our babies that throwing a fit isn’t how we get what we want?
Would you rather my baby cry, or toddler throw a fit, or me raise a decent human being who doesn’t always get everything they want?
Because newsflash. 9/10 times my toddlers cry in public, it’s because they’re not getting what they want.The candy bar, to sprint across the store, the hammer they somehow picked up along the way. They’re throwing a fit because they’re upset about a no.
And anyone can be a decent person and respect that. I know it’s loud. But just know that I want it to end just as badly as anyone else. But I won’t give in for the strangers.
Stand strong mama. They’re not your people.