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What to Know About Twins
So, you’re pregnant with twins and looking for what to know about twins before diving off the deep end into twin motherhood?
You’re in luck.
I have polled my Twins and Coffee audience and they came THROUGH with the new twin mom advice.
They didn’t hold back, told it how it is, and most importantly, shared everything you need to know about twins.
Regardless of where you are on your twin mom journey, you need this info. Hell, even I learned some things as I’m only 2.5 years into this whole thing! Or 3+ if you’re including the twin pregnancy itself.
Anyways, I’ve compiled all my twin mom audience had to say and have come up with 50 AWESOME tips for you guys on this whole twin parenting thing.
Here are the top things to know about twins.
What to Know About Twins as a Twin Mom
- You absolutely have to keep them on the same schedule or you will go crazy! My twins are almost two now and we still try to keep them on the same schedule as much as we can!
- Just enjoy it and get help where you can, whether it’s with the twins or other kids you
- Look into twin carriers like the Weego. It saved my sanity grocery shopping the first few months and prevented me from having to do the push a stroller pull a cart routine while protecting the babies from wandering stranger hands.
- Order your groceries for pick up. I would have killed for that option as a new mom.
- Sleep is ROUGH for everyone. I was so nervous throughout the night about my preemie twins breathing & wish I would have purchased an Owlet sock for each of them! (check them out here)
- May have already been mentioned but if you have identical twins, label your pictures. If you’re like me, in the moment and day to day you may think they look nothing alike but when you look back on old pictures you may be like hmm 🧐🤔which one is that 😳
- Don’t beat yourself up when the schedule you had planned goes absolutely Pete tong 🤣 the first few months of being a twin mum are crazy, amazing crazy but just absolutely bloody nuts!
- Sleep whenever you can and let people help if and when they offer
- Breastfeed if you can. (simultaneously and on schedule) for as long as you can. Your boobs are your best tool against everything. You’ll need help in the beginning, but you will gradually master the procedure.
- Same “schedule”, which didn’t look like a schedule at all until about 5-6 months.
- Accept that you’re not going to feel “awake” for months. The sleep deprivation was the hardest part for me, and it sucked for a long time
- Don’t be pressured to have a schedule like everyone wants. Do what works for your family. Everyone has different situations and different things that work for them.
- When someone offers to watch them so you can shower or eat your food while it’s hot, DO IT!!
- Just When you think you have a routine…that’s when the routine changes! Mine are going on 2 and still wake up during the night. The first year is a blurry hot mess! But they are so precious ❤️❤️
- My Dr. had twins and I asked if it ever gets easier…She said just when you think you have it down and a schedule, you don’t ! And she was right🤷🏻♀️ It changes ALL the time. I just roll with it….before I know it they will be graduating.
- When someone offers help take it! I had a hard time accepting that I needed help in the beginning but now it’s greatly appreciated!
- You will need some “me time” to keep your sanity!
- Twins are a blast and there will never be another dull moment in your life! ❤
- Sleep and ask for help. Lots of help!! Turn no one away.
- It’s ok to show defeat and listen to your body. I ran myself down mentally and physically!
- Someone is going to cry and that’s OK!! Even if it’s you 😘
- Relax and know that no one is perfect and this is your ride you’ll figure it out along the way
- Schedule!!! Keep a routine at least for meals & nap times. I started at 1 month & it’s been a life savor, planning things around the schedule. My twins are 16 month & it’s been the best thing I’ve ever done! Even thru this crazy time in life keeping meals, snacks, naps, & bed all the same when everything else isn’t. It’s what’s kept all our sanity
- This is sometimes controversial because a lot of twin moms feel like twins should never be separated just because they were born together but having twins myself and being a twin myself, make sure you and your partner spend time with each child individually
- Sleep when they sleep, dont ever think it gets easier (it just gets more interesting) and definitely buy some stock in wine or your drink of choice!
- Make sure daddy or SOMEBODY you trust gives you a day off here and there
- If you get burned out and frustrated, it’s ok to put them safely in their cribs and go take a 10 minute break.
- There is something magical about taking them outside that makes them calm down.
- You will find a routine and one day you’ll realize you’ve got it down pat and you will be so proud of how far you’ve come. When one wakes to feed, go ahead and wake the other to keep them feeding together.
- Sometimes you have to let them cry. Stick them in a safe place and let them be. You can’t do it all, all the time
- The best advice I got .. was keeping a schedule.. some days are a little off and not everyday is exact but to have a guide to stick by kept me going. And you get to pick the schedule because you’re the mom
- Same schedule same schedule!! I always like to feed one at a time for that bonding experience, so they’re feedings are about 30 mins apart 👏🏼 but I will wake that baby to feed and stay On schedule
- Absolutely keep them on the same schedule. If one baby wakes to eat, don’t let the other sleep
- Get rid of false expectations
- Get a routine that works for you and the babies
- Lower your expectations (hungry?, diaper?, nap?, clothes? – these four count so much, for you as well, when the basic needs are fulfilled half the work is already done
- Lower your standards lol. I tried to believe I could do it all with 4 littles. But I had to learn to settle a little and not want perfection or everything always done. Can’t beat yourself up. Just do the best you can
- Shifts! Take everything in shifts with your partner so you can at least nap a few hours uninterrupted…especially given that it’s probably just you two and not grandparents/friends helping right now. Shift rotation also helps you establish and keep them on a schedule
- I’d say being a rainbow twin mama to 10 month old fraternal twin baby girls, that above all to trust yourself & your parenting choices, I’m not saying that you will always be right but never ever doubt your capability to look after these two little ones
- Take pictures of each baby individually
- Try and savor the one on one time you get with each baby instead of feeling guilty for the baby you aren’t tending to in that moment
- Find something for you and only you (painting, getting your nails done, going out with friends, a hobby, something
- Accept any help given and remember that you are doing a good job no matter how exhausted you feel. Ask for help and never feel bad about it. You WILL need it. And schedule is key.
- Yes, same schedule as much as possible and definitely sleep when they sleep especially during the first few months. I didn’t do that with my first but I certainly did with the twins. I still do some days depending on the kind of night it’s been!
- Slow down and enjoy them. Time flies and they’ll be grown before you know it. 💜 Always keep in mind that the house doesn’t have to be spotless and it’s okay to not be perfect. Those are the things I stressed about the most and looking back they didn’t really matter!
- Enjoy the moment. Don’t get caught up in trying to make it all work perfectly. Twins are messy and chaotic, and it’s hard. Slow down, breathe, and know that you’ll make it through this day and onto the next even when you’re not sure you will.
- Know that that hard parts don’t last forever and it really does get better eventually, even if it doesn’t feel like it ever will.
- Coffee! And try to breath it’s a crazy but fun ride.
- I found trying to have a schedule was more stressful for me. But I also have 5 other children before the twins. I worked on their schedule for the most part and honestly they have for the most part stayed on the same sleep and eat schedule without any prompting 🤷🏼♀️
- Dont be afraid to ask for help, invest in a good coffee maker, and remember to eat.
- Take lots of pictures & videos because the newborn phase is really a blur
- Don’t compare yourselves to other moms and don’t compare your babies to one another… they’re two different babies!
- Feed and change at the same time, don’t let them get into different routines
- Do not compare yourself to other moms, you will be amazing in your own way. Comparison is the thief of joy. And many parents don’t have twins, so there is no comparison anyway
- Take control of what happens to you and your babies. Don’t let people pressure you into letting them come visit or hold the babies or anything that you are not up for. It took me a long time to become my own advocate and it’s so important.
- Try and enjoy each moment. Spend time with them Individually as well as they are two different people. Take lots of pictures, because they grow so fast.
- Keep them on the same schedule. Mine are two on the 31st and they’ve always ate and slept on the same schedule. It’s so helpful.
- Don’t watch Tik Toks when they nap! Just close your eyes and lay down when they nap.
- Allow help from others!!!!! And SAME SCHEDULE!!! Can’t stress that last one enough!
- Do not feel like you have to take them out anywhere! If we get invited to something that’s happening during nap time? Nope sorry, can’t come. Not worth it to wake them up. Somebody’s having a meltdown? Sorry can’t come. Nobody slept last night? Sorry can’t come.
- Singing can be a great way to soothe and connect with both babies in those instances when they both need comfort but you can only manage to hold one at a time.
- Do everything u can to make sure they stay on the same schedule!
- Getting a routine set asap is a life saver, also its okay to wake a sleeping baby when you need to feed both at night so youre not constantly awake feeding
All in all, you do what works for YOU. I promise, you’ll find your twin mom momentum and it won’t be as hard as you expected it to be.
There will be days where you want to give in, and wonder why you were the one chosen for twins. But those moments are always followed with a sign of why YOU were chosen to be a twin mom, which trust me, you were!
If you’re reading this and already have some twin mom experience, what would you add? What hit home? Comment and let me know!