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How to Give Yourself Grace
Now, I’m not too religious. I don’t go to Church or pray regularly. I honestly don’t even think I’ve read the entire Bible. But something I have started practicing in recent years is the act of Grace.
One of my best friends brought up a couple years ago when I was mid panic attack that I needed to stop and give myself some Grace. I don’t know why right then was suddenly the turning point for me, but it has stuck with me ever since.
Grace has actually become my word for 2020.
Who would have thought I would need it as much as I truly do right now, lol!
There is so much uncertainty in the world right now, and it is creating new levels of anxiety for some. For me, I’ve lost a large source of my family’s income due to budget freezes as a contractor for many companies, we’ve had to take a large sum of our bills off of autopay because they’re honestly not the priority right now. We’re stretched thin looking for additional work, trying to find out if we’re eligible for unemployment for the time being, and not to mention worried about our family. Seeing the numbers rise daily of infections and deaths scares the crap out of me.
I know, everyone has their own opinions when it comes to what is going on, but I am at a point where I am very nervous for my families health. As someone who recently had a very large asthma flare up, I worry the sickness might put me on a ventilator. Or what happens if my husband gets sick and can no longer work for weeks.
There is enough going on that I try not to think much about it. I try to think realistically about it but there is also so much uncertainty that even that is a struggle.
That is why I am turning to giving myself Grace now more than ever.
I have seen so many of my friends talk about or share posts worrying about not doing enough right now. Whether it be teaching their children, keeping up around the house, taking care of themselves. Everyone seems to be worried that they aren’t doing enough right now.
Maybe I won’t be the first, but let me reassure you, you are doing PLENTY right now. There is no perfect way to react right now. No guideline. All you can do is what you do and that should be enough. Right now is the time where you should give yourself Grace than ever.
However, I know that is easier said than done. Just like anything else, you can’t just shut off the worries. I can’t just tell you to “calm down” or “not worry about it”. All that will probably do is make it worse!
But instead, I want to give you a few tips on how to give yourself Grace in all kinds of situations because trust me, if I’ve learned anything so far as a mom it’s that if you’re worrying at all about not doing enough, odds are you are doing more than enough and better than you think.
First, let me explain how I see Grace.
It kind of means something a little bit different to everyone I have found. For myself, Grace means giving yourself the ability to find peace in your situation and accept it for what it is, whatever that might be.
Here are a few tips on giving yourself the Grace you deserve.
Recognize you deserve to be at peace with your doings
I know for myself, when I am struggling with my situation odds are I am not recognizing that I am worth accepting. I think everything I am doing is the wrong thing or not enough and work myself to a point where I don’t see clearly. But once you can look at yourself and say to yourself “I deserve peace and acceptance”, you will be on the path of learning to give yourself Grace.
Realize you are doing enough
You never need to “keep up with the Jones'” in any situation, including how you handle obstacles life throws your way. Just because your friend Brittany is doing things differently than you, doesn’t mean what you’re doing is wrong. Everyone has their own path to walk.
Repeat to yourself, this is not a competition
This brings me back to your friend, Brittany. You are not in a competition with her. You are both different people and that is that. It’s not about who can handle this or withstand that better. It’s about what you can do. What makes you happy. What fills your cup. What takes care of you in this situation. Worry about you, boo.
We are all on our own walk of life, and sometimes you have to take that second to step back and look at what lies ahead of you to truly see what you need. For me, that was the opportunity of giving myself Grace. Maybe you need that chance too.
Hang in there mama, you can do this!