You Don’t Need a Schedule to be a Good Mom – Real Mom Talk

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Sometimes life gets the best of us.

And sometimes it gets the worst.

I get caught up in the “I need a schedule to be a good mom” mindset allll the time.

I blame Pinterest.

It always leads to some kind of meltdown where I just hate on myself because I am not ‘Pinterest Perfect’.

Here is a real life brain dump from when I got the idea for this #reallifemom post;

This idea literally just came to me as I am frantically trying to clean up the house because once again I am an overwhelemd mess.

Something that I dont talk about often, or really at all. But it is a huge part of my life that I have been trying to over come for years.

I have good days and I have bad days. Probably more bad that I would ever like to admit but hey, I am doing my best. And that is all we can do.

But while I am trying to clean up the house and interrupted for the tenth freaking time by a screaming banshee child, I got to thinking, how do these pinterest moms do it?

All I ever see are checklists for this and that. How to keep a clean house, schedule for a clean house, weekly tips for cleaning your house.

But you know what?

It’s all bull. BULLLLLLLL.

Btw in the time that I have written the last 100 words kendall has crawled over to me twice crying and then back away to play with a toy. Toddler years are going to be fun!

Anyways. All these lists are complete crap. I am willing to bet that not a single one of the creators of the lists follows through. They probably wrote it as a guide for themselves. Hoping to be able to do it. Because they aspire to get it all done.

But its just not possible.

At least not sanely.

Oh boy now I have two of them screaming.

I didn’t change a single thing. Those were just the thoughts running through my head as I was overwhelmed by another destroyed living room, 10 page long to-do list, and babies that wouldn’t stop crying. 

And I know for damn sure that I am not alone.

Social media puts a lot of pressure on us moms, new or seasoned. Pressure to be perfect. To have a morning routine that kicks the day off with a POW, cleaning schedule that keeps the walls sparkling, and somehow still manage to make meals, clean up after, and take a shower.

I would like to meet the person who can do it all, because that girl gets all of the respect in my book!

I am not that person. No where close.

Instead, I am the person who falls for it, tries and tries, and just ends up a mess.

Something that I am trying so hard to work on in regard to those melt downs is simply realizing that we are never going to have control of absolutely everything. Days aren’t going to go as planned; especially with little ones! They might wake up early and throw off your normal morning routine, or they might get sick and need you to lay on the couch and snuggle while you rewatch Moana for the thousandth time. Either way- the world isn’t going to stop spinning because you didn’t complete you checklist that has things from three days ago still on it. The mess isn’t going to scare the sun away from shining tomorrow.

Tomorrow is still going to come regardless of the toy covered living room, laundry covered bed, or unbathed kids.

Sometimes we can’t do it all. And by sometimes, I mean most of the time.

Sure, there are days where I rock it and feel like supermom. But you know how those days come about? From days before of taking care of other needs first such as my own needs. I can conquer the WORLD after a day of me time. 

This past weekend my aunt and MIL split up watching the twins so that my husband and I could have a few hours of baby free time. We got coffee, drove around, went to a car show, grabbed lunch together and that is seriously all I needed to recharge.

Taking some time for myself on Sunday led to a very productive Monday. I conquered most of the day’s todo list by noon and had the rest of the day to work on what I actually wanted to work on. Which was this post and the new Twins and Coffee youtube channel.

I guess all I am saying in this big rant of a post is that supermom isn’t always keeping track of everything and sticking to the schedule. Sometimes supermom is sticking all of the dinner dishes in the sink and getting down on the ground to play with your kids. Or locking yourself in your room to binge on some Hulu for a while because that break from kids is a necessity.

You don’t need a schedule to be a good mom. You just need to be you.

Let things fall apart. Ask for help. Take time for yourself. Play with your kids. Skip the last ten things on the list so that you can drop everything and take a trip to the Zoo.

You got this mama. You are more than a schedule.

Don’t you agree?

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