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This is nothing new. Stressed out moms are basically what motherhood is made up of.
But there are different levels, at least that I’ve found. Theres end of the day stress, being late stress, too much to do stress.
But then theres the, I have absolutely had it stress.
Lately, I have been completely overwhelmed by motherhood. I’ve been struggling for a long time, and recently opened up about it to my friends and family. Then I decided to talk with my doctor about what has been going on.
It was hard. I didn’t want to do it. But after the fact I can say I am happy I took the chance and went for it. It’s what a lot of stressed out moms should probably do.
You don’t have to soak in the craziness of motherhood like I was. There are countless things you can do. And I get that asking for help isn’t for everyone.
That is why I took to my twin mamas over on Instagram and asked what they do for those stressed out mom days.
Here is what they said!
“I take a moment to take some deep breaths (like really deep) then pick a new activity/task to do. Sometimes you just need to move on: hard as it might be and not let that moment ruin your whole day”- Love this one!
“I turn on some worship music and dance while I cry” – Fighting through the frustrations in a positive way.
“I try to just sit & breathe for a second…I tend to forget to breathe sometimes. Just taking a deep breath really helps me sometimes!”
“Sometimes I just sit there & cry” – You have to let those emotions out sometimes. Embrace them.
“Oof. That’s usually the moment I put the twins and big brother in the gully baby-proofed living room with some Daniel Tiger and go to my bedroom for 5-10 minutes to simply breathe and decompress. Maybe I’ll meander through Instagram, maybe I’ll read a chapter of my current book; whatever it is, it will be just enough to sustain me through 10 million more hugs until bedtime.”
“Chocolate, lots of chocolate! I love #momtimeouts and singing myself little songs or saying silly affirmations to get through the day!”
“Breathe and try to focus on the good. Ideally, I try to remember that this is only a phase/moment in time and will pass”
“I usually get frustrated and think about having a drink ”
“…I literally have to remove myself from the situation. My middle child makes me so mad how disobedient she is. Leave the room, Breathe, don’t cry, and drink wine ”
“Deep breaths, and honestly probably stress clean/tidy for a second so I feel in control of it all”
“I sarcastically LOL & think about triplet MoMs and then I’m fine again…” – LMAO
“Take a beat, breath. Give your self a second (or 30) to feel all the feels. Then get back at it.”
“Take a deep breath, hide in my pantry and eat a snack. ”
“I remove myself when I can. I force myself to get out of the house. Even with the kids and just go through a drive thru, get them what they want and drive in peace.”
“either a coffee or a beer ”
“Give myself a time out. Sometimes it lasts a whole week. Just not looking at the todo list, living bit by bit and trying to enjoy what I can”
“I take a deep breath after I shed a tear or two!”
“I imagine saying f*** you and then walk away.”
“I clean like a mofo. Cleaning is a huge stress reliever”
“I’ve started to ask for help. I will take a break for a little bit then call my mom or a friend and ask for help. Even take the night off and tell my husband I need a break.”
“Message my friends and just let it all out. Sometimes just getting it out in the air is all I need.”
“Make myself a super indulgent coffee drink, or pack the screaming kids in the car and drive to the nearest Starbucks for a venti iced coffee”
“Break the load. I’ll tell my husband I’ve had it and I need help. I usually ask him to do more of the load for a few days while I recoup and get myself back in check.”
“I’ve recently started using the headspace app and it is AMAZING for finding peace in the moment and making a plan.”
And then my top five:
1. Ask for help. You deserve it, ask!
2. Eat your favorite food. Let the calorie count go and don’t think about anything else. I love Postmates and Grubhub for this!
3. Remove myself from the situation. Whether it be plopping down on the couch with How I Met Your Mother, or telling my husband I’m taking a break and going to Target or a coffee shop. I get out of the space that’s causing me stress.
4. Throw my to-do list away, actually in the garbage, and clean the house with some bluetooth headphones in.
5. Or the opposite. Make a fresh to-do list. Reorganize with what I think I can get done today but make sure to add in things I want to do. Things that make me happy.
Does anyone else find it funny that not a single one of these stressed out moms said they choose to go for a run, or do any kind of exercise when they get crazy overwhelmed? I had to laugh at that!
It is for sure not my coping mechanism. But I do hope that this list of tips for stressed out moms really helps you, and gives you some new tools to cope when you have just H A D I T.