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It’s right there in the title; self-love for moms helps you be a better mom.
Now, that is not at all to say that you are some bad mom for not making yourself a priority. Don’t think that for one minute. We all parent in our own ways and do what we think is best for our littles.
I really do think, however, that if you are able to fill your own cup and give yourself what you need, you’ll have a much happier and fulfilling motherhood experience.
This post is sponsored by Lane Bryant, however as always, all thoughts and opinions are mine alone.
Why self-love is important in motherhood
Why is self-love for moms SO important? Like I said, it fills your cup.
When your cup is full, you’re happier. Plain and simple. But beyond that, you’ll find that you’re much more content and can better handle the many stressors of motherhood.
I’ll just hop right out here and share that I often am the “angry mom” or just an angry, irritable person in general. Where does that anger come from? Unmet needs. Un.Met.Needs.
Aka: not taking care of myself.
What is self-love for moms?
I think of self-love for moms as looking at yourself as a priority. The kids have needs, as does the house, dog, work, yard. So many things in your life have needs, and so do YOU.
That’s not to say that you must always put yourself first. We all know that isn’t an option in motherhood. But making taking care of yourself a priority? That is absolutely an option.
Self-love is not selfish
I see this misconception a lot. As mothers, we often think AND are told that we must put our children first. Above anything. Everything. Their needs come first.
And I think that is false. You can’t take care of someone else if you aren’t taking care of yourself and it is absolutely not selfish to think of yourself as a human-being with needs of your own.
Self-love for moms is critical when it comes to providing everything you can for your babies. If you aren’t taking care of yourself, you will burn out and that might lead to an explosion of anger, deep depression, or so many other things. And I am not a stranger to any of them.
I am not perfect. I don’t put myself on my priorities list often enough. And it always comes around and bites me.
How to practice self-love for moms
Showing yourself love doesn’t have to be complicated. It doesn’t have to be some grand gesture or a spa day at a fancy hotel. I find the smaller, simpler acts are the best way to practice self-love for moms.
Ahhh one of my favorite things. Affirmations. I keep a Pinterest board filled with them and recently put together an affirmation mirror that makes me smile each time I look at it.
Some great affirmations to start your journey with might be:
Do you know your love language? My secondary love language is gift receiving and frankly, I take that into my own hands. Small gifts like a new book or some beautiful peonies to place on my dresser as all that I need to top off my cup.
I talk about this often, but I love the saying of “the most productive thing you can do is unproductive”. Aka- rest! Rest is seen as giving up, being lazy, or unambitious. I’m here to tell you that this is not the case. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to get some well-deserved rest. Between kids, life, and work, you need it. Rest is one of the best ways to show self-love for moms.
I brought up books as a small way to gift yourself some self-love, and I truly think between books and podcasts, you can really show yourself some love. I can’t possibly give you my entire list of books and podcasts, maybe I’ll put that together another day. But a few to start with might be:
Invest in quality products for yourself
More often than not, just like not showing ourselves the love we deserve, we skimp out on our belongings as well. How many times have to reset your toddlers closet? Now what about your own?
Newsflash- you deserve nice things too! Especially quality items that make you feel confident and comfortable in your own skin!
I’ve talked about Lane Bryant before, and I just had to share them with you again. They stand for everything I do- empowering & supporting women to live their life unapologetically with confidence.
We’ve all been spending so much time at home lately, and I know I got tired quickly of my same couple “lounge” outfits that I usually wear around the house on weekends. But I recently added a few of Lane Bryant’s new loungewear pieces to my collection and it was absolutely the self-love I needed.
Lane Bryant’s flowy, perfect sleeve v-neck tees are my absolute FAVORITE for everyday wear & go so well with their selection of powerhold leggings (all of which have POCKETS girl).
Shop for your own new pieces through the links below.
If you leave today with anything, I hope it’s with a few of these ideas for self-love for moms, and that you are able to finally make yourself a priority.
You are important too, mama. You are.