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Raising twins is no walk in the park.
To think I thought I was “stressed” before I had the twins. JOKES.
I find it funny how words seem to have different meanings as you grow and especially while I am raising twins.
You once thought tired was the feeling of getting up for school groggy, then after a long night out. Come to find the whole new meaning of tired after a a week, month and then year of raising twins.
Same with stress. At one point, a math test stressed you out more than anything. Now that same word holds a whole new meaning about 100x worse than what you once thought it was.
Life with twins is crazy. Wether you’re pregnant, in the newborn flows, or later on. It’s all kinds of wild. But out of any tips I could give to you to help yourself handle the new level of stress you’re experiencing, here is my number one.
Ask for help. Learn to push your feelings aside and ask. You have friends, family, church & work peers all able, and most willing, to help. You just have to open yourself up to it.
I am the first to admit I HATE asking for help. It makes me feel worthless, to be honest. Like I’m giving up. But what I’ve learned by having twins is that sometimes that help is what makes you that better mom. The one your babies need.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Here are seven truths on raising twins
1. The attention you get is INSANE
If you thought the pregnancy attention was insane, just you wait mama. I rarely can go into a store with them without someone giving me a double take and saying “oooooh are they twins?!” before I can run away. So far, nearly two years in, I get it just as much as day one.
2. It can be hard finding the right friends
This is a hard reality of raising twins, but honestly it can be hard to find your “people”. Having two at the same time creates some unique challenges that moms of singletons don’t face. So relating to other new moms can be challenging.
3. Tired gets a whole new meaning when rasing twins
Like I said earlier, words get a whole new meaning after twins. Like tired. You have never experienced this level of exhaustion, but unfortunately you also get used to it. Surviving on little sleep becomes your super power.
4. You NEED help
Again, like I said earlier. This is something you have to face. You simply can’t do it alone. You don’t have four arms or four eyes. You can’t always give them everything they need at the same time. And while that is hard to learn, it is something you have to accept.
5. You learn to think on your feet
A blessing of twins is the level of multitasking skills you develop. You are constantly trying to serve two babies at the same time, and while help is nice, you won’t always have it. So you get to work with what you have and that means a LOT of multitasking.
6. They might (quite literally) drive you crazy
Twins bring on a level of anxiety you might not be used to, and that is okay. Remember that you can always talk to your doctor about what is going on. I finally did and am so thankful I did. I finally feel some relief for the first time in so long. Asking for help is OKAY.
7. Your heart IS big enough
It can seem impossible. Like your heart will never be big enough for raising twins. But I promise you. It is big enough to love the heck out of them.
Life with twins is crazy. But there isn’t a thing I would give on this earth for anything different. It’s a life not many get to experience, but I am so glad we get to.