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Ever since becoming a mom of twins, stress management tips have been on my radar.
I soak allllll of the stress management tips in because well, life is chaotic as shit and I need some support! Especially in motherhood parenting twins. As much as I HATE when strangers tell me I have my hands full when they see my double stroller or double shopping cart, I have to admit, my hands are full and I’m stressed TF out 98% of the time.
The Truth About “Mom Stress”
While I’m admitting things I’d rather not admit, I guess I should share that more often than not, I let my stress consume me. I get worked up about one thing, then another, and another up until the smallest inconvenience happens and BOOM. I blow.
I yell too much. It’s a major fault of my own. And absolutely something that I am working on between therapy and self-help tools like stress management tips I’ve gathered.
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Stress Relief Tips for Moms
Something that I have recently learned is that there is a core belief within yourself as to why you become “stressed out” so often, probably a lot like myself.
That core belief comes from the way you think of yourself and your situation, meaning you might be stressed out because you’re not meeting your fundamental needs. Needs like being at peace with your own parenting decisions, or your own self, along with needs such as the time to recharge and re-energize yourself.
Let’s dive into a few ways you can tackle the core of your stress, and hopefully cool it a bit.
Why Are You Stressed?
Before you can ultimately tackle your stress and ground yourself, you gotta figure out what it is that you’re lacking that is causing you the mental overload.
Take a step back from your situation and ask yourself why this is bothering you. Why is THIS your limit? Have you not been taking care of yourself? Taking on too much? Let’s chat.
Tips to Reduce Motherhood Stress
There are so many ways to tackle the core of what is driving you nuts, but my best stress management tips start with:
- Understanding your “stressed” signs.
- & Creating solutions for those signs.
Understanding your stress, like mentioned above, is key to being able to move forward and NOT cause yourself that kind of stress again. Some of the signs of stress overload include:
- upset stomach
- aches/muscle pains
- & low energy
After evaluating where you’re at, which is clearly STRESSED TF OUT, some solutions for dealing with where you’re at include:
- getting proper rest
- taking a break (aka, time for YOU)
- write it out
- get outside
- & do something just for you
Now that we’ve gone over how to handle where you’re at TODAY, let’s dive into how to AVOID common situations that caused your stress in the first place.
Do Less & Say NO
Saying no. Oh, my new favorite thing. I used to be such a “yes” girl. Mostly because of FOMO and guilt. But after realizing that prioritizing myself, as much if not MORE than I prioritize others, my world opened up. I don’t need to be there for everything. There is a time and a place. If I need rest, I don’t need to say yes to the BBQ that always ends up with me getting home at midnight.
One of my favorite sayings is: “give yourself some of that love that you give so freely to others”.
Keep Good Mom Friends Around
Not only are quality friends essential for your mental health and overall well-being, they’re a great way to minimize stress.
- They will call you out when you need to step back
- They’re a shoulder to vent & strategize with
- They are good for the soul and will help keep you grounded through unexpected FaceTime’s, afternoon drinks, and best of all, quality conversation
Strategize Your Day
One of my greatest stress management tips is starting your day on the right foot with a good ‘ole to-do list. Strategize your day. Envision how it is going to pan out, and avoid the unexpected missed appointment or running yourself too thin by adding too much to your nearly full plate.
Showing yourself love is a great way to stop stress in its tracks, and simply not let it happen. When you show yourself love and appreciation through doing things that meet your basic needs, you’ll find that you’re in a better headspace to handle life’s hiccups along the way.
Treat Yourself to Online Therapy
A final stress management tip is indulging in some good talk therapy. I know therapy isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but it is for so much more than simple mental health support for depression and anxiety. Talk therapy can help you really open up and recognize parts of yourself and life that you otherwise wouldn’t. After every therapy appointment I go to, I leave with a new bit of advice that I in no way thought I needed.
If you’re going to walk away from this post with anything, I hope it’s that your ability to recognize what is bringing you stress along with the ability to tackle it in whichever way is helpful for you.
If you are at the point of wanting to discuss your situation with a therapist, I highly recommend BetterHelp.com. You can read more about them here.